"It's been so long since I made love, I can't even remember who get's tied up."


"It's been so long since I made love, I can't even remember who gets tied up." said the late Joan Rivers.  It was one of her best jokes to take a shot at one of the truer, deeper emotional admissions that some of us women have.  We're just afraid to talk about or admit to.  However, some of us women do sometimes like to be physically controlled and spanked.  It's all about the trust we have with our partner.  In addition, the physical pain heightens the pleasure we feel while also being sexually stimulated.  Both partners just need a healthy discussion beforehand of what is, and what's not allowed and perhaps a "safe" word. 

Today, these consensual behaviors have to be tempered with the backdrop of recent social movements regarding women's (and men's) rights.  There have been incidents of us women experiencing non-consensual, sexual violence and/or sexual assault.  Ladies who are interested in exploring bondage, discipline, submission, and domination (BDSM) sex may have to sign waivers ahead of time to avoid legal issues later on.  

At the end of the day, in a healthy relationship, we ladies must talk with our partners.  In a non-healthy relationship, we may mistakenly assume or simply dismiss.  As we all know, when we assume, we could end up making a big legal mess for both sides.  Who wants to spoil a good spanking?

Ladies, what do you say when it comes to bondage, submissive, or domination behavior?  How do you feel about being sexually submissive?


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